As a woman, you know how important good friends are to your quality of life. We lean on each other, support each other, help each other through the low times and celebrate the good. My grandma used to say that good friends are like your favorite pair of shoes – comfortable and dependable.
I think the men in our lives sometimes wonder how we form these bonds. Male friendships are just different. I’m not saying men can’t or don’t have good friends – just that they form friendships differently. I don’t know for sure, but I suspect men don’t get together over wine and discuss their relationships, their worries about their children or things like that. Less like a favorite pair of shoes, more like a jacket, maybe? Something that’s comfortable and that you need, but just not all the time. Shoes, on the other hand, you need every day.
You know how busy life can be. With kids, work, husbands and all the other demands on our time, it can be difficult to really maintain friendships. Like any other relationship in life, it takes effort to make a friendship work. But the best friendships continue to thrive even when the other parts of life get in the way. Good friends get it when you don’t call for a few days or weeks. Good friends understand when you forget a birthday because they’ve done it before, too.
But best of all, good friends will be there when you really need them, just like you’ll be there for them. If you need a shoulder to cry on, you call your friend. If you have an idea to share, you call your friend. If you’re sick and you need someone to clean your bathroom, you can call your friend for help with that, too.
Friends complete us, just like that favorite pair of shoes completes your outfit.